Before I forget, please post about your recent vacation in the comments! I would love to hear what mischief you and your wife got up to on your trip!
Now, on to the big question about photos and whether they are of me. Is it going to disappoint you terribly and turn you off from reading the blog when I tell you that any naked photos here are most definitely not of me? I hope it doesn't. Naked people are hot, whether it's me or someone else. And honestly, the photos I find are pretty much hotter than I am by a billion.
Part of me really does want to share photos, especially since the only two I've posted have drawn lovely compliments. Like many women, I have some insecurities about my body, and getting positive feedback is a great feeling.
I don't feel objectified, at least not in a gross way, because I made the pictures and I chose to post them. I don't know how I would feel knowing that people were jacking off to naked photos of me on the internet. That feels like something I'm not ready for. Why I think that people getting off to my detailed description of my sex life is any less/better/worse I don't know.
A huge part of my decision is related to anonymity and self-preservation. Losing a job or family members over a fleeting desire to indulge my exhibitionism online is something I'm not prepared to do.
There's my long way of saying no, not me. But kind of wish it were.
We love your answer to this question. It's thoughtful and introspective, as well as very relatable. We completely understand your reluctance to share photos. Though we do our best to remove metadata and tags from the pictures we post, we have no way of knowing if there's some means of immediately tracking a picture back to the geographic location where it was taken - or even the person who took it. If that turns out to be an eventuality we suppose we will deal with it when it happens.
ReplyDeleteAlthough having, say, Jill's devoutly Catholic parents find out about our blog would be awkward and potentially problematic, we are more afraid of Jill's colleagues or employers discovering it. It seems like the repercussions of that would be more difficult to shake off. We would also hate to cause our daughter undue embarrassment later in life.
We're glad that you mentioned the issue of people getting off to your written adventures as opposed to your pictures, as we wondered how one is different than the other. It doesn't matter what the distinction is in your mind; all that matters is that there is one, and as long as there is one thing that you're okay with and something else that you're not, you've got to do what's necessary to remain in your comfort zone.
For me the work consideration is the bigger one at the moment. I'm pretty sure no family members would ever find this, but there's always that possibility. And I think they would be very, very shocked. However, as for Jill, the repercussions of my employers finding out would be very bad, and likely go beyond just losing my job. I won't always have this job, but then I also will be older and nowhere near as hot as I am now ;).
Deletei originally asked this question and felt a need to reply-sorry it took so long. the lack of your own pictures here WOULD NOT STOP me from reading, i enjoy your blog. i understand having body issues, real or perceived. i have my own. i will tell you that your twitter pic of your legs by the pool is outrageously sexy and what made me click on it to find this blog. i also find violet and rye's blog the most erotic thing i have ever witnessed, but i now get off more on reading of their exploits, whether sexual or not, than trying to self pleasure myself to their pictures or videos. my point being that since finding their site my views have changed about what i'm looking for as far as porn(hate to use the term). as far as my trip-let's just say it was an incredible week deep in the carribbean where my wife and totally enjoyed each other-nothing was off the table and it was awesome. maybe more details another time!
ReplyDeleteAnon, thanks for coming back. Your vacation sounds wonderful, and I think that vacations like yours and mine have the potential to make good marriages (and the good sex within them) great.
DeleteThanks for the compliments on the photo, and I appreciate them because a) it's always wonderful to hear you look sexy, and 2) I'm learning the ins and outs of a new, fancy camera and that was one of my first good photos.
And I'm glad you'll keep coming back, even without more photos of yours truly to whet your appetite. It's all about connecting with the person who means the most to you. That's what's really erotic and intimate.
They're some good legs missy!!!
ReplyDeletepictures are nice, but its the words that show your personality, (I think) my gf and i are a lot younger than you, and you, your advice (D's steps=5 times over!!) and your stories are fascinating to me and can only wish we are where you are a few more years into our relationship (and hopefully much further). do you ever divulge your ages?
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Thank you for the compliment!
DeleteI'm glad you enjoy what I write, and that the advice has been effective ;). I haven't divulged our ages, but this is what I told someone recently: the first President I remember is Carter, and the first President I could vote for was Clinton (1st term). That will get you in the ballpark.
ok, so as I'm English, that took a bit of research and working out, however, my conclusion is as follows:
ReplyDelete1. WOW! those legs seem all the more AWESOME now!! you must work so hard to look so good??
2. I REALLY REALLY hope we are where you are when we are your age, something to be immensely proud of!!
PS. please dnt misunderstand my last comment, i check everyday in the hope you've changed your mind about showing more!!
Thank you for your compliments. I do not mean to be rude at all, but to be truthful, we're barely 40! I can see how that seems far away if you're in your early 20s, which I think you might be. But it makes me wonder exactly what people think a late 30s/early 40s woman looks like!
DeleteAnd at the same time, it sort of makes me *want* to post more pictures to defy stereotypes :).
Ah hey, I didn't mean it like "your old", apologies if it read like that. I had you down as mid 30s so not old at all. You say you've been married years now and you still seem to have an amazing libido, and you two are still finding lots of new things to try and having all these amazing new experiences. I have been with my gf a few years now and hope hope hope to be finding new games to play in the bedroom after being together ~15 more years too.
ReplyDeletePlease take my comments as compliments, I promise that's the only way they were intended and did not wish to cause any offence.
Apologies again x
Hahaha, no offense taken at all! I am SO glad that we are still finding amazing ways to make each other feel good, and that we're both as interested in sex and sex with *each other* as we are. There will always be new things to try, no matter your age or how long you've been together. And the real pleasure is in the repeats--trying something new, discovering you love it, and then working on all the variations on that theme.
DeleteAnd I did NOT mean to offend you, either! I take all you've said as compliments. And I hope I did not scare you away from commenting :).